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Post by TequilaDo on Apr 2, 2008 19:56:41 GMT -8
Hey guys I need some advice. As you all know I play Halo way too much and am on an MLG team separate from TDC. I have gone through about 3-4 solid teams that I know have potential to do extremely well in the MLG tournaments. In all the teams I have joined my buddy EnragedNova has been on as well. We have been teammates since back in Halo CE, we know each other really well and what not but the problem is, he is a really bad teammate. He doesn't listen, learn from mistakes, and at times it seems like he doesn't even care about the game.
The problem I have is I feel as if he is holding me back. Every single team that I have been with split up because they can no longer stand his attitude and all the mistakes he does. I don't know whether to trek on by myself and actually succeed (Hopefully) or hang with him in hopes of he actually learning and becoming better.
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Post by Zangief on Apr 2, 2008 20:51:39 GMT -8
I think he has yelled at me quite a few times in customs...
He is a friend of yours? Tough call. I guess it depends on how serious you are. And I know you do take Halo seriously since you go to MLG events. Would the split ruin your friendship? Are you good enough friends that if you talked to him about it he would at least try to listen or would he just get pissed at you? Luckily for me the guys I am good friends with would recognize the situation and would get over it quick if I wanted (for example) to go further.
Sounds like that if you really are serious about progressing with a good MLG team, the split will have to happen. But I wouldn't do it without talking to him first.
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Post by Hellion II on Apr 2, 2008 21:05:45 GMT -8
Friends > video games.
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Post by Nobody on Apr 2, 2008 21:57:15 GMT -8
Is he your friend in real life?
What I have seen in my young life is that people only change on their own. And the most common times a person changes their personality is when a significant event happens in their life (ie. moving out of their parents house for the first time, puberty, etc...). Halo is probably not a significant part of his life. But if he has been there with you through all of these years, it seems that he is a dedicated player. The reason I asked if he is your friend in real life, is because maybe you should look into what is going on in his life and what may be causing it. Most people that are disturbed in some way take out their frustration in different ways.
If none of the above seems to fit into your friends case, then maybe he is just like that. I know of people from high school who went from being a jackass to an even bigger jackass. It just depends on the person.
Bottom line is that you should talk to him. Tell him you are leaving and let him know straight up why you are splitting. If he is a reasonable person he will understand. This will be probably difficult, but if you think about it it is the only way.
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Post by calico on Apr 2, 2008 23:29:16 GMT -8
A real friend would realize his flaws when they are pointed out to him (by a friend) and at least listen or make an attempt to try to change his or her personality when they are around each other. Talk to him. If he refuses to attempt to change his ways for the benefit of your team, then in my opinion he is undeserving of you dragging yourself down trying to help him. |
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Post by Roggie on Apr 3, 2008 6:01:19 GMT -8
A real friend would realize his flaws when they are pointed out to him (by a friend) and at least listen or make an attempt to try to change his or her personality when they are around each other. Talk to him. If he refuses to attempt to change his ways for the benefit of your team, then in my opinion he is undeserving of you dragging yourself down trying to help him. Also, if he gets pissed off by you talking to him about something that he needs to work on, then he's probably not the best candidate to be a friend. |
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Post by TequilaDo on Apr 3, 2008 13:43:57 GMT -8
Thanks guys, I took into account all of your guy's advice and decided to split. I called him up and talked to him about it. He seemed to be sad but I think this kind of necessary because I have told him plenty of times before what he needs to work on to be a better team player but refuses to learn. In the end nothing happened at all to our friendship we are just no longer Halomates.
Again,
Thanks all of you!
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Post by Roggie on Apr 4, 2008 12:19:17 GMT -8
Then he's a friend worth having. Halo should never come between a good friendship. Online friendships? Yeah, it may. But real life? Even at the semi-pro level of you guys, it shouldn't hurt a friendship through a breakup. Some people aren't made up to be a pro Halo player. (Myself included). He may have had the skills, but he wasn't overall up to it. But, it's good news you two are still friends.
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